To handle yourself , use your head , to handle others , use your heart

Friday, October 15, 2010

ophie's diary

kdg2 ase buhsan jew..
tapy bgus laa
ade kwn2 yg happening cm owg gile yg bwu tlepas dri hospital
idop nieh penuh dgn gelak tawa jew..
kalu bleyh nk gtawu at dunia
"aku hepi laa woii"
hahahax
gile enn..
act,sye da tatawu nk cite cmne pasai feeling sye nieh..
so,harap maap la ea..kalu kowank bce den ta phm
hahaax
uke laa..
skunk nieh
sye ceria laa
tapy ade mase nye sye ta bpe nk ceria laa..
tape..
sye kne ceriakan diri..
ta suke laa kusut2 pale nan prob yg tah pape nieh
owg kate..
idop nieh cume skali..
so,kne hargai nye..
ishhh..
da melalut laa..
nk cite pasai laen
tapy laen plak yg di cite kan nieh
ahhax
sorey yeah..
memg merepek cgt2 skunk nieh..
nanty sambg laen laa
nk ciap g kelas math
hehe
papaiii
:)

sejenak bersama owg gila
;)

Wanita tidak semestinya memerlukan lelaki, tetapi wanita dan lelaki saling memerlukan, cinta itu anugerah.
Mengapa wanita memerlukan lelaki di dalam hidupnya? Untuk beberapa waktu dahulu, ia begitu memukul-mukul kepala.
Ya, apa perlu seorang wanita yang bebas mempertaruhkan sebahagian besar hidupnya kepada tangan seorang lelaki?
Bukankah lebih hebat jalan dihujung minggu bersama kawan rapat, berkenyit-kenyitan mata kepada lelaki kacak yang saling tidak putus dan tidak lokek senyum tanda salam perkenalan.
Saya mempunyai seorang rakan, sederhana cantik, tidak terlalu kurus tidak terlalu gemuk, tidak terlalu buruk, tidak terlalu jelita, manisnya ada, santunnya memikat orang tua, beragama juga kerana selalu sahaja diceritakan dia terhendap-hendap membawa sejadah masuk ke bilik stor kecil untuk solat, dan dia sentiasa cuba gembira dengan kehidupannya yang solo.
Tetapi saya fikir, saya faham apa yang berputar-putar dalam kepalanya.
Dia tidak dapat berdusta betapa kebahagiaan cinta kawan-kawan membuatnya cemburu, dan membuatnya selalu terfikir-fikir: Apalah perasaan gadis yang dipuja dan dicintai hebat oleh seorang lelaki.
Kawan, saya harap dia membaca artikel ini. Cinta tidak datang dipaksa-paksa. Cinta tidak juga datang kala kita mahukannya. Jika kita mahukan ia menjadi air, ia datang seperti api.
Tetapi, jika kita bersabar dan menerima ketentuan Tuhan, seorang lelaki yang baik akan didatangkan kepada kita juga. Lelaki yang baik itu tidak turun dari langit.
Lelaki yang baik itu juga tidak semestinya datang dengan kepala berketayap, janggut selambak atau harta membuak-buak.
Tetapi lelaki yang baik, jika Tuhan mahukan dia menemani kita sepanjang hayat, membimbing kelakuan kita, menjaga kemurnian kalbu bersama-sama, mendidik, membuka jalan agar kita dapat memperdalam selok belok agama yang barangkali selama ini hanya menjadi pakaian dan lencana, dan memberikan kita zuriat yang halal lagi dirahmatiNya.
Dia akan datang apabila tiba masanya. Lambat atau cepat, maafkan saya, kerana Allah itu yang lebih mengetahui.
Kawan, kedatangan seorang lelaki dalam kehidupan seorang wanita seperti manusia kudung yang diberikan semula sebelah kakinya. Dia menyempurnakan kita.
Namun, tidak kira semasyhuk mana sekalipun perkasihan dua jantina, selain perkara yang cantik-cantik dan molek-molek, kita, wanita, harus bersedia menerima kehodohan-kehodohan perhubungan.
Kerana apabila kita mempersilakan seorang lelaki duduk di samping kita untuk sepanjang hayat, bererti kita harus langsung juga mempersilakan sekian masalahnya berbaring di bahu kita.
Kerana itu tidak hairan jika kita mendengar ada di kalangan kita, gadis, yang merungut-rungut kerana tanggungjawabnya terhadap keperluan hidup lelaki tidak juga berkurangan walaupun belum lagi berkahwin.
Ya, lelaki memang mendatangkan bahagia.
Tetapi lelaki juga mendatangkan sengsara. Namun jika kita bijak menatangnya, semuanya pasti baik-baik sahaja. Itulah adat dalam perhubungan. Yang buruk-buruk pasti ada.
Barangkali daripada si dia, barangkali juga daripada kita, tetapi kita harus cermat mengimbangkannya agar jodoh berkekalan ke hari tua.
Bagi yang sedang galak bercinta dengan lelaki permata jiwa tetapi menerima tentangan keluarga dua pihak, jika anda fikir anda tidak mungkin mampu hidup bahagia tanpa restu ibu bapa, maka ada baiknya anda menyerah kalah saja.
Walaupun tidak saling memiliki, dan cinta tidak juga diwali dan dinikahi, anda dan dia tetap pengantin di dalam jiwa.
Barangkali sudah sampai masanya anda mencari sahaja lelaki lain untuk dibawa pulang menemui ibu bapa.
Bercakap soal kahwin, beberapa kenalan rapat yang dewasa bersama-sama.
Sejak zaman gatal-menggatal kenyit mengenyit kala di bangku pengajian, kini sudah disunting, dan bakal menjadi isteri kepada lelaki yang mereka cintai.
Semoga mereka tak tersalah pilih.
Dan semoga lelaki yang dipilih, melaksanakan tanggungjawab dan melunaskan hak suami isteri.
Wanita, kita dicipta dengan kemuliaan syahadah. Kerana benih seorang lelaki, kita ini tersenyawa, dikurnia tenaga sehingga kita mampu menyibak jalan keluar dari rahim ibu untuk melihat dunia.
Kerana benih seorang lelaki, kita ini ditiupkan jiwa, menjadi manusia, dan mencari seorang lelaki untuk dicintai, sebagaimana ibu diilhamkan Tuhan untuk berkasih sayang dengan bapa.
Dan kerana Tuhan yang Maha Kuasa dan Maha Pencipta, kita wanita, kita ini diciptakan daripada lengkungan rusuk kiri lelaki, tidak terlalu gagah sehingga mengenepi kudrat lelaki, tidak juga terlalu lemah sehingga jatuh menyembah kaki.
Tetapi kerana ciptaan Tuhan itu indah, kita terbit daripada rusuk lelaki, bukan dekat kepala untuk dijunjungi, bukan dekat bahu untuk membebani, bukan dekat lengan untuk dijulangi, bukan dekat jari untuk disakiti, bukan dekat pinggul untuk dihenyaki, bukan dekat lutut untuk ditindihi, bukan dekat kaki untuk ditunggangi, tetapi dekat pelusuk hati untuk dimulia, disayangi dan dicintai.
Andai lelaki itu burung yang terbang, kita adalah angin lembut yang bersisir-sisiran sepanjang perjalanannya.
Tetapi kerana fitrah kejadian Tuhan wanita itu kebergantungan hidupnya harus saja diserahkan kepada seorang lelaki yang boleh melindungi, maka kita pun tidak selamanya mahu menjadi angin semata-mata.
Kita mahu menjadi bunga, menghias sayapnya. Kita mahu terus bersama-sama, terbang dari rendah perkebunan bunga sehingga ke sayup langit terbuka, sehingga jalannya yang paling hujung, sehingga kita tua, rapuh dan mati.
Tetapi kita bahagia dalam dakapannya, semoga kita semua diketemukan dengan jodoh yang baik..InsyaAllah..

dipetik dari iluvislam

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

ada hikmah di sebalik nya



"kadang-kadang kita berdoa untuk kuat

tapi 
banyak pula dugaan yang datang
kadang-kadang kita minta cerdik
tapi
masalah pula yang datang
kadang-kadang kita minta kebahagian
tapi
huru hara yang menjelma"

dugaan menjadikan mental kita kuat
masalah menjadikan kita berfikir
huru hara menjadikan kita tabah


Sunday, October 10, 2010

Cloud ~ Kiss The Rain ~





cinta itu sebenarnya sgt berharga dan kita perlu mengambil masa yang mencukupi untuk mengenali seseorang itu sebelum melafazkan kata cinta kepadanya..

apalah erti cinta jika sekadar lafaz di mulut dan bukan dari hati.

pernahkah anda mencari sesuatu barang yang diperlukan tetapi tidak berjumpa?
sebaliknya apabila barang itu tidakdiperlukan lagi,tanpa anda sedari ia ada di depan mata.
oleh itu,jangan terburu2 mencari cinta kerana ada kemungkinan ia akan datang sendiri kepada kita
ketika kita tidak lagi memburunya..

hidup memang memerlukan cinta,tetapi cinta bukan segalanya di dalam kehidupan..

jika kita kecewa bercinta janganlah disalahkan takdir,kerana tuhan lebih mgetahui apa yang terbaik untuk kita.di mata kita mungkin ia satu kburukan,sedangkan ada bnyk hikmah tersembunyi di sebaliknya yang tidak kita sedari.

tidak salah untuk bersedih dan kecewa apabila putus cinta,namun jangan kterlaluan hingga berfikir serta bertindak keterlaluan dan bukan-bukan,banyak lagi keutamaan lain di dalam kehidupan ini dan bukan cinta semata-mata..

p/s:lyn lagu nieh sambil bce yea
:)

Saturday, October 9, 2010

wanita ibarat epal

love is .......

love is....

teguran itu penting dalam kehidupan


"People can criticize other people who are ready to accept criticism of others."
The above verse is one of the words of the intellectuals who criticized and reprimanded. Criticism may be valid in any, occurred in the reign of the government, in companies, in associations, in schools.
In the household also occurred, reprimanded the child's father, her husband commented, and others. Meaning she said the advice was accepted in anywhere.
Building and demolition
Criticism can be divided into two essentially constructive comments and a static and rigid. Whole Humans expect constructive criticism is not static. But there are also not like to be reprimanded lansgsung.
Human nature is known, only willing to be reprimanded when he was in need of such criticism. For example, Si Si A goes to B and want to comment or ask for advice, then whatever is said by Si B will be heard by berlapang chest.
Another if a person does not need criticism, suddenly admonished. Only half of the high-minded people who can accept criticism is spontaneous, while the small-minded, and continues to be felt tormented heart.
People who criticize
Humans do not ever run out of an offense, just a lot different and a bit. But let those who try to criticize the mistakes are minimal.
Do not be like crabs who taught her to walk straight. Something very strange when hardcore drug addicts to teach or criticize other people went to the mosque, although they themselves still terkontang kanting side drains in the box.
So if we like rebuke, we must ensure that the advice was in the direction towards our first, and then to others.
People who commented
Normally it is constructive criticism, because what we are not aware that sometimes other people have realized before, our perception of other people's perception, stated. Therefore, when rebuked, do not be too quick to bridle and rejected the criticism. If so, you are the losers, because you have the opportunity to build yourself, but the very beginning you have to tear it down.
Hukama said, "ordinary people will get angry when criticized by others, while the base is that they are improving themselves from criticism of others. Supposedly this is the custom of our lives."
Humans need a 'mirror' for the review itself. Is a mirror of those around us. Imagine you shave the mustache without a mirror. Is not difficult?
Remember ..
Each person must present also rebuked reprimanded. Many are not able to do this. Just like love to criticize but not reprimanded. So important when rebuked isyaratkan first, first comment is for yourself.
Remember! When you point fingers at the mistakes of others, in fact you have 3 fingers pointing to yourself. It was the custom.

how to forget sumone


can be really complicated and end up in a bad breakup. The worst thing about these "sad endings" is that at least one heart ends up broken. Getting over a break up can be tough. Sometimes, it's even hard for both sides--after all, breaking up is not easy to do. It hurts to throw away your story with someone--all the good memories and the dreams and plans you two had for the future. Mending a broken heart takes time and patience. But you must face the fact that your heart is broken. It doesn't matter if you wish things could be different or if you even regret something you did. It doesn't matter if you think you shouldn't have become that involved with that person or if you're angry and looking for revenge. The fact is: Your heart is broken! This relationship advice can help.
Even if the only thing you want to do is win your partner back - and by the way, if you're interested in doing this then I strongly recommend The Magic of Making Up -when a relationship is truly over, it's time to begin the healing process.   So now what? Are you going to sit and cry for the rest of your life or do you intend to do something? Was that ending your fault or are you not the one to blame? Is there something you can do to fix it? Is there something you should stop and think about so you can act in a better way the next time 'round? Is mending a broken heart even possible? Of course it is! With this relationship advice, getting over a break up is possible. There are many things you can do to heal a broken heart! And the best thing is: It all depends on you! Here's how to forget someone in 8 steps.
Step 1
Cry out everything you have to cry about! When we get hurt, it's normal (and good) to cry. Don't ever think you're being weak for crying and don't feel embarrassed because of it! It's normal and it's good! When you cry, you let go of part of your anger and hurt so you can feel less heavy. You can lock yourself in a room, if you want to, and put on some sad music...but let yourself feel the pain and cry so you can let it go. The main thing here is: Get rid of the pain! Just let her go!
Step 2
Get busy! When you're trying to get someone out of your head, you need to put other things inside of it. In other words...get busy! It doesn't matter how, you just need to get distracted. Go to a movie, watch a play, travel. It doesn't matter what are you going to do--the important thing is to find something to do. Find a hobby, find something you enjoy doing, something to keep your mind busy. If your mind is busy, it doesn't have time or space to think about the person you're trying to forget.
Step 3
Spend some time with your friends. Friends are always great to have in this kind of situation! Friends can make you feel good about yourself and get you distracted very easily. They will certainly make you laugh and make you see that you're way more important than you think! The only warning is: Ask them not to talk about the person you're trying to forget. If they start bringing the topic up in every conversation , you won't be able to forget, and instead of making you laugh, they're going to make you cry. So be honest and ask them not to talk about it!
Step 4
Avoid the person! Try not to go to places you know you can meet that person. When you're trying to forget someone and you two keep seeing each other, it gets hard to get over it. If you meet him/her somewhere, just be nice and kind, but find an excuse to go away as fast as you can! If you work or study with him/her and you can't avoid seeing him/her, just try not to look and not to talk too much. Just be gentle and keep busy all the time so you won't have excuses to look at him/her or to chat.
Step 5
Go out and see some different faces! Being at home gives you more time to think about it, which makes the process even more difficult. So even if you're not feeling excited or you're in a bad mood, just put on your best clothes, best shoes, best smile, call some friends and go somewhere nice where you can dance, drink, listen to some music. And the most important: See some different faces! When you go out, you notice that the person you're trying to forget is not the only one who's got a perfect smile and an amazing voice...thank god, there are other interesting people around the world, too!
Step 6
Avoid every kind of romantic thing! If you're trying to forget someone, you'd better not watch romantic movies or listen to romantic songs...it makes you feel bad and you will certainly remember the person you're trying to get rid of. It doesn't matter if it's a song you love or if it's playing on the radio...just change the station or do something else! Put on some happy songs, dancing songs, watch some comedies, terror movies, whatever...you just need to avoid the romantic things for now!
Step 7
Take good care of yourself. Women tend to run for some kind of self-destruction when they're hurt. If we break up our perfect relationship, then we have no reason to get our nails done anymore and the only thing that gives us comfort is chocolate and sugar. That way, the only thing we do is to become less attractive and lessen our self-confidence. So if you're hurt, just try to use your pain for yourself instead of against you. Go to the gym, work out a lot, get your nails and hair done...do whatever you can so you can feel more pretty and confident!
Step 8
Accept the process! You can be really strong and it's still going to hurt. The process takes time and you have to accept that! You can't hope to forget in 2 days someone you loved for 2 years...and you can't pretend to be strong if you feel like crying. Just face your pain and accept that it's not easy and it's going to take some time. When you're patient with yourself and your situation, things tend to get easier...

Well, of course, forgetting someone is not easy to do nor is it easily explained in just 8 steps. But there are some things that make the process a lot smoother. As I said, it takes time and it's hard but I'm sure you can do it! The only thing that is really, really important is: It all depends on you! Don' ever forget that! If you want to forget someone, then you will, there is no doubt! Even if it takes a long time, even if you have to be really strong...you will be! In that kind of situation we usually find out that we are a lot stronger than we give ourselves credit for! So believe that. Believe that, take a deep breath and move on! Your life's waiting for you, baby